Comments for Coming Out At Midlife

Comment on Alice, Formerly Known As Al by Author

Author — Tue, 14 May 2013 08:47:10 +0000

Thanks, Rachael! Stories like hers make me realize how fortunate I really am. Compared to Alice, I have no right to complain about anything. She’s one of my new heroes.

Katie D.

Comment on Alice, Formerly Known As Al by Rachael

Rachael — Mon, 13 May 2013 20:18:19 +0000

What a heartbreaking and yet, uplifting story. Thanks so much for sharing!!

Comment on Coming Out At the Interview by Author

Author — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:29:59 +0000

Thanks so much, Rachael. I feel like it’s nobody’s business either. If I were straight, I wouldn’t try to shoehorn a mention of my husband into the conversation either, but yet . . . Sometimes I feel as if I’m betraying my partner by not being more “in your face” about it. We’ll see how it goes. I haven’t been called back yet, and it’s been a week. I may not get a second crack at it, but if I do, I hope I can speak up.

Katie

Comment on Coming Out At the Interview by Rachael

Rachael — Fri, 10 May 2013 11:14:02 +0000

I think you handled it very well! I wouldn’t have likely discussed my sexual orientation at an interview either. Not because I was scared, but because it’s not anyone’s business. Of course, I am of the mind that it is easier to except that side of me – once someone has already gotten to know me as a person without the extra label.

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by Author

Author — Sat, 04 May 2013 09:20:12 +0000

Jan, I so appreciate your words, especially because you’re a mother, too. You can understand how it feels. You put it so well, there is joy as well as angst on your child’s wedding day, and without TDL, I’ll be denied that. I remember feeling just numb at my daughter’s weddings without her. Maybe I’ll live long enough to attend my grandchildrens’ weddings, and just maybe, both of us will be there. You never know. Thanks so much!

Katie

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by Author

Author — Sat, 04 May 2013 09:16:50 +0000

Hi, and oh, thanks so much! You are so sweet! I’m dealing with it but most of the time I am just bewildered. TDL and I will do what has brought us through these nearly twenty years — just hold on to each other and try to be patient. Life has a way of straightening things out (no pun intended). One of these days, he’ll see the light.

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by Rachael

Rachael — Thu, 02 May 2013 11:13:27 +0000

Hey there, I just found your blog and I am sad to have found it on such a sad moment in your life. I can’t even begin to imagine treating my mother the way that your children have treated you. Such a sad thing. I’m so sorry you have to to go through something like this, and even more sad that your partner has to go through something like this. I would only want my mom to be happy – what’s wrong with that… I hope things work out for you and I am sending you virtual hugs, dear! ((HUGS))

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by mothlit

mothlit — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 05:16:41 +0000

Hey, Katie,
This bothered me all day long. I tried to imagine what it might feel like, but just came up empty and sad. I’m so sorry that your ex, or whomever, has inspired such insecurity that your son can’t accept and support your loving relationship, but mostly, as a mom myself, I’m sorry that all the joy and hope and angst that you might feel that day (if, in fact, you’re able to feel it), won’t be shared with TDL–at least not in the moment. No doubt, you are incredibly strong.
Jan

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by Author

Author — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 12:52:40 +0000

Thanks so much, Erin. It’s hard because I love my son, and I always strove to be someone all my children would respect. But as a mother, I’ll forgive this and hope that things will improve over time. Time can heal.
Katie

Comment on Minus My Plus-One by Erin O'Riordan

Erin O'Riordan — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 12:22:37 +0000

The irony is painful, and I’m so sorry for the pain that it’s caused you. Some days (most days, unfortunately) I’d just like to slap the bigotry right out of people – but my hand would very quickly get too tired.